The Missing 10 Percent

by Bo Sanchez


Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have.
"Wow, this girl in my office is a real looker.
But it's not her Wynona Rider features that got me.
I'm crazy about her because she's also understanding, intelligent, tender - so many things that my spouse is not."

Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did.
Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 90% of what you're looking for.

So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 10 %.
Let's say your wife is melancholic by nature.
You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: "I broke my arm yesterday, Ha ha ha ha . . ."
Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt.
Or because your husband is the quiet type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host.

But wait! That's only 10% of what you don't have.

Don't throw away the 90% that you already have!

Add to your spouse's 90% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you've accumulated as lovers.

Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have.
But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have.

But I'm not just talking about marriage. I'm talking about life! About your jobs. About your friends. About your children. About your lifestyles.
Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's missing? "They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they've got personal videos!"
Guarantee you'll be miserable for the entire trip!
Don't live your life like that.
Forget about what the world says is first class.
Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class - because they're not riding in a private Jet?

The main message:
If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are IS FIRST CLASS!

counting the dots

Can you count the black dots? :)

left brain vs right brain

While sitting at your desk, lift your right foot off the floor
make a clockwise circles
Now, while doing this, draw the number '6' in the air with your right hand finger.
Your foot will change direction (anticlockwise) and there is nothing you can do about it.
..fun eh!..

Sounds Delicious with Apple

Baked Apples
8 to 10 apples, cored, peeled and halved
3/4 cup granulated sugar
3/4 cup brown sugar
1/2 cup flour
1 teaspoon cinnamon
2 teaspoons butter, melted
1 cup water

• Preheat oven to 350 degrees F.
• Place apples in greased 13 x 9-inch dish.
• Mix remaining ingredients together in ORDER given, in pan and bring to a boil.
• Simmer, stirring until thick.
• Pour syrup over apples and bake for 35 to 40 minutes or until tender.

Woman of the House

A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands....

Woman.. is the center of the house, as a Men is the head of the house.

I have been thinking a lot of this statement until finally i realised that when a woman in the house is the type that has fear of God, she will be the one who prays for husband and children, and blessed are the houses with this kind of woman. Being fear of God is the key to a happy family.

New Year

Ah.. i hates it when new year resolution comes to my mind.... I cant think of anything for myself, maybe bad experiance where needs cannot be fulfilled or whatsoever. I was reading a book 'failure is not the End'. Yes, it says God will allow changes in our life so that we can move as in we are forced to accept or do changes in our life...
Maybe that is the reason for many unexpected or uncertainities in life. Sometimes we are too comfortable to stay where we are now, but sooner or later there will be something that trigger us to move ahead... i think that is what God means by that..... All this happen for our good....
Ponder on that words makes me feels soothed but not for long, as the trigger is on going... It wouldnt stops until u go and do as what God plans. I rather walk in his way than mine... How i wish i am rite now.

Fruits...Tips

To find a great tasting watermelon, hold the melon to your ear and knock on it. The more hallow it sounds, the better the taste.

If you are expecting company for dinner and want to serve your guests some fruits after their meal, here is a tip.
To keep fresh cut fruits like red or green apples from turning brown, coat the fruit's sliced surface with lemon juice. Not only it preserve its color, it will also give the apple slices a fresh tangy taste.

Tips

If you love the smell of fresh herbs and spices, try this for your home.
Just place a pan of water on low fire and add an assortment of spices into it.
Let the spices simmer for a few minutes until they turn fragrant.
Try cloves,cinnamon or basil and they all smell naturally delightful.

If your precious china plates are fragile and prone to scratches, keep them in top condition using this strange trick.
Place paper plates between the plates as you stack them. Apart from keeping your china scratches-free, the paper plates also allow the china to slide out more easily when you retrieve them.

Cactus

I have few cactus collection by now.
I just missed visiting the aunty who sells it at Gaya Street on Sunday..

Rainny day

These rainny day season, i was admiring my flowers... Then i saw this cute little fellow in my plant pot.. Do u notice the brown froggie in the flower pot? I wonder how did he managed to climb the walls coz this pot is at my verandah (1st floor) and on a top rack of 3 layer rack. Curious... cant make up with any formular to explain how he managed to climb.

I just leave him there and when i peep in the evening, he is gone.... Hopefully the bird didnt eat him... :)

me and Swarovski crystal

I am into beading.. just try to create few design..
I saw those they sells in the shops..its nice but too common. I just want to do something which i would like to wear and something unique.

These are my few collection D-I-Y (do it yourself) crystal and pearl bracelet.

First image is a mixture of white round pearl and 3 different red shade colouring of the Swarovski.

Second image is a mixture of white round pearl and yellow and gold color of Swarovski. I have added a round gold beads in between with yellow glass beads along the string.

Third image is a mixture of white round pearl and Blue Swarovski.

Beautiful things

The best and most beautiful things in the world
cannot be seen or even touched.
They must be felt with HEART...

If you love someone..

If you love someone
You will always Believe in him...
Always expect the best of him...
Always stand your ground in defending him...

......... the reality, do we able to do so?

Encouragement

Song of Solomon 2:15
“Catch for us the foxes, the little foxes that ruin the vineyards, our vineyards that are in bloom.” (NIV)

It occurred to me that this situation was a metaphor for our marriage. One day everything looks and feels wonderful. We go out of our way to do special things for each other for the sole purpose of seeing the other one smile.

Then the beetles, or as Solomon says ‘the little foxes,’ take over our lives and eat away the joyful moments. The children whine, the dog throws up, the washer breaks, and supper burns. When he gets home, I ‘greet’ my hardworking husband with a scowl and jump right in to tell him how horrible everything is. All he can see is the shadow of the joyful wife he left in the morning.

I hate when I focus on the negatives and forget that I am here to support and provide tangible love to my spouse and family. Thankfully God provides a fresh start each morning. I can ask for forgiveness for yesterday’s failings (from both God and my husband), and I can focus on the blossoms of today’s joy. Yes, things will go wrong, but I can manage my attitude so the day isn’t ruined. I want to shoo away the negative attitudes so that my husband comes home to the peaceful place and loving wife that he deserves.

My Prayer for Today:

Lord, I thank You for Your amazing creation – yes, even the Japanese beetles. Continue to remind me that our troubles are only temporary, and that Your love is eternal. Help me to focus on Your blessings and to keep the world’s little hassles in proper priority. In Jesus’ Name, Amen

From crosswalk.com

Plants

Mom likes to plant any flowers that she thinks nice to see.. So at home, there are lots of mixture of plants.. no themes or category to split it into.
My mother-in-law also crazy of plantting flowers, she has lots of varieties of orchid, my husband has the photos.. which he used to practice his photography skills. Now she is crazy of the roses, but the blooms are small size not like those sold in the flower shop. I wonder why as in Ranau, its cool as in Cameron Higland where they plants flower, but it doesnt seems to grow well.
My father-in-law has a good hand in planting too..whatever he plant, it will grow n bear fruits. I had a good time eating mangosteen planted near the house.. This year hope his durians jadi..so i can enjoy eating durian as much as i like. Jambu kampung pun ada...
I still prefer cactus.. ngam with my small apartment space. I hadn't see any blooms now a days, maybe becoz of the rainy days.. or tak cukup baja. I had a pot of rose given by mom-in-law.. hope it will blooms, i add in few types of baja, for leaves and growth. Hahahaha..simply mix it together and hope it does something good for the roses.

Gardens

At my small verandah.. i squeeze all my plants.
I am so crazy till almost every Sunday i go to the Gaya Street to shop for Cactus. That aunty, dont even want to give me a changes to bargain for her rm3 cactus. Sometimes its just an experiance..i buy and then i care for it..care too much till it dies..then buy the same type n try other way to get it live longer then the first batch. Thats how i learn how to take good care of the cactus. Sometimes i'm success and sometimes fails at it.
The cactus in the pic, till now it has bloomed 3 times now..and it stays about less than a week and goes dry n falls. Isnt it beautiful?

Bukit Tinggi

I went here for the company trip...i cant remember when but was this year 2006...
I always wanted to go there..but then..its a dream comes true,
but a bit disappointed as its only a few meter stretch and fulls with shophouses n motels, The only interesting part of it is the environment.. feels like in france..heheh...Apart from that, there are few other places that we went to, the Japanese garden..i like this the most.. and the rabbit farms.. i saw a dead rabbit near the fence..i wonder if anyone ever notice that.

Eight Below

Last nite, i watch 'Eight Below' movie.
Its a very sad story which was based on a true story about the courage of the sled dogs and the explorers teams in Antarctic. I remember well the sled dog pack leader, Maya, Shorty, Max, the twins, old Jack, Shadows and few others...
Its very sad to think of the good,loyal animals to men, which in the ends gets nothing out of it.
Stranded in the snow, tied up colar .. the sled dogs managed to stay alive and make it through the winter and waits for Jerry and teams to come back for them. Even not all 8..as Jerry said "almost..".
The story is based on an actual 1957 Japanese expendition.
Jerry Shepard stars as the guide who spends months working in Antarctica with his beloved team of 8 sled dogs.
Right before the winter, they are assigned to bring a geologist, Davis to search for a meteor. After a treacherous trip to the meteor, word comes that a storm is moving fast and the team has to be out of the base camp immediately. Davis pleads for a few more hours and Jerry reluctantly gives in. Finally Davis found what his is looking for and they happily continue their journey back to the base camp. But as the team starts their trip back, a misstep by Davis sends him flying off a 20' cliff. Being rescued by Jerry and the dogs, Davis's appreciation for the work done by the canine crew grows tenfold.
By the time Jerry gets Davis back to the base camp, they desperately need medical attention. Unable to take the dog with them on the flight, Jerry only boards the plane with assurances from the pilot, Kate that she'll land and immediately return for the dogs. When Jerry wakes up in the hospital, he quickly learn no one was able to return for his team.

Love

Love is...

A day in paradise

Today is saturday but its a working day. Wonder how people spend their saturday? i tend to forget what can i do on saturdays, as its always been a full working days and i am getting tired of it. How i wish my saturday is like other people saturday..staying, laying and lazying at home...What a life.